Wednesday, September 15, 2010

Pour Your Heart Out...The Anger List

Anger isn't something I like to feel.

Yesterday I was angry about a lot of different things.

It was insinuated on a blog that I don't care enough about my stepdaughter to send her in new clothes to school, which is false in its own right, but none the less, the insinuation was there.  That I'm somehow less of a parent because I don't believe school is a fashion show in elementary school.

How many times did I have kids in my own classroom who cried because their moms would "get mad" if they got dirty?  It is about your child's perception whether you meant it that way or not.

So, I send my son and my stepdaughter to school in comfortable and appropriate clothing for learning and playing on the playground and in P.E.  They don't wear flip flops or open toed shoes to school. Their playgrounds have mulch as the base and let's face it, mulch under and between your toes is gross, in addition to the potential injury factor.

That's my choice and decision as a parent. 

I don't criticize the fashion show parents either.

I guess it just set me off.  Sometimes that happens and fortunately, it's not all the time.

You know those moments, when one thing pisses you off and everything else in your day simply follows suit.

My husband doesn't do sick well. Crankypants.

And he's been suffering from a cold for nearly two weeks now.

We got into an argument which contributed to my anger.

In our relationship, arguing isn't destructive...there's no name calling or degrading. Just disagreement when it happens.

But, the emotion is still there.

The Anger List also included: feelings about past allegations and accusations, my ex husband's planning skills, a family member's behavior, the dvr being set to record two programs, so I couldn't watch the 3rd I wanted to watch while it was on, Amber on Teen Mom...

You know when the day begins that way, all the little things get magnified.

I don't do angry well.

I hoping today will feel better.

Oh yeah! I went to the dentist too and as I drove up, Eminem was on the radio.




  1. School is NOT a fashion show. Even if my seven year old likes to think so. LOL

  2. I don't get dressing up for elementary school. I got messy every. single. day!

    I hope today is better too--and no more dentists, especially!

  3. I have one that loves to dress up and one that is a jeans and t-shirt wearer. I think it's up to each parent and nobody else's business.

  4. You are a wonderful parent. Don't ever question that. xoxo

  5. Girl - as a teacher in a uniformed school, it SHOULDN'T be a fashion show! So rock on, you have it right.

    I am sorry about the angry day - just know that you are in good company, and that anger and emotion make us real. It sucks, but it will get better. My Nana used to say, "this too shall pass"...I hope you have a better day!

  6. As long as you're not sending them to school is too small ripped and stained clothes, whats the big deal?

    My husband is no fun sick either. It's like having another kid in the house!

    I'm sorry you had a bad day. I hope today is a better one!

  7. When I'm angry or upset, it seems like everything else is magnified.

    My kids wear clothes that are comfortable to school. Especially when they are so young and do things like paint at school. So, I don't send them in things that I don't want to get ruined.

    And sometimes, it's my child's choice. My oldest has new shoes for school. Does he want to wear them? No. He wants to wear his beat up crocs. I bought him new crocs so that he could wear those instead- he's not having it. I see it as a battle that is not worth fighting. Yes, someone might see those and judge, but whatever. It's not their child.

    Anyway, chin up, girl!

  8. Oh goodness, I devoted half of one post to the fact that i got a bunch of hand me downs for my little girl! And, I meant it as a GREAT thing! Lord only knows what some people would think of that? God forbid a child not wearing each outfit only one time. If you start teaching them NOW that clothing is that important, they'll be wanting $200 jeans before you know it. Start them off right NOW, where they realize what you wear is probably the least important thing about a person.

  9. Not really sure what to say that we haven't talked about offline. Here to lend support :)

  10. I am so with you on the dressing for school thing - I always worry that being in the twp that we are in that if we do not dress to fit in my kids will be judged... but that is something we are going to have to live with I guess.

    And you are right when one thing sets you off it just seems to snowball sometimes.

  11. Some days are just like this. Sorry its been an ugly one for you.

    As long as your kids clothes are clean - and not reduced to rags - why would anyone care what your kids wear???

    I would be upset about that too.

    Hope tomorrow is a better day!

  12. Geez. I seriously think we are dealing with the same person! Sorry you had a day. How frustrating!